The Leadership Trap Nobody Talks About

The Hidden Risk of Success

Success brings influence, recognition, and trust. But it can also quietly change the dynamic between leaders and the people around them.

The more successful a leader becomes, the more likely people are to hold back. Team members may soften feedback, avoid disagreement, or stay silent altogether, not because the leader asked them to, but because influence naturally changes how people respond.

I see this often in my executive coaching work with accomplished leaders. Many genuinely want honest communication and strong collaboration. Yet without realizing it, they sometimes create environments where ideas get filtered, concerns stay unspoken, and meetings become quieter.

At first, it can even feel productive. Less tension. Faster decisions. More apparent alignment.

But over time, the absence of honest dialogue becomes a liability. Because when people stop challenging leadership, leaders lose access to the perspective, feedback, and insight they need most.

The Warning Signs Are Often Easy to Miss

Most leaders do not wake up one day and decide they no longer want feedback. In fact, most would say they value it deeply. But the moment people stop feeling heard rarely happens all at once. It is gradual, subtle, and often easy to miss.

You may notice meetings becoming unusually agreeable. People nod quickly. Conversations get shorter. Team members stop challenging ideas or offering new perspectives. Sometimes you can even feel the energy shift the moment you walk into the room. But silence is not always alignment. Sometimes it signals that people no longer feel psychologically safe speaking honestly.

This is where psychological safety becomes critical, whether leaders realize it or not. Google’s well-known Project Aristotle found that the highest-performing teams were not built solely on talent, intelligence, or experience. The single greatest predictor of team performance was psychological safety: creating an environment where people feel safe enough to speak up, ask questions, challenge assumptions, and express concerns without fear of embarrassment, rejection, or punishment.

Cultures like this do not happen by accident. Leaders create them every day, consciously or unconsciously, through the way they listen, communicate, respond, and make people feel in the moments that matter most.

Executive Presence Is Not About Controlling the Room

One of the biggest misconceptions about executive presence is that it is about control. People often associate presence with authority, certainty, decisiveness, and always having the right answer. While those qualities can certainly play a role, true executive presence is not about dominating the room. It is about creating an environment where people feel safe enough to speak honestly, contribute openly, and challenge ideas when necessary.

That is where your IT Factor begins to emerge.

Your IT Factor is not built solely on how confidently you speak. It is reflected in how intentionally you listen, how you regulate your emotions in difficult moments, and how you make others feel seen, heard, and valued. The strongest leaders are not the loudest voices in the room. They are the leaders who create enough trust for people to share the truth, even when it may be uncomfortable.

This requires self-awareness, emotional regulation, and the confidence to understand that disagreement is not disrespect. Leadership is deeply relational. Your effectiveness is shaped not only by your expertise or communication skills, but by the quality of the relationships you build with those around you.

Ask yourself:

• Do your team members feel heard and respected?

• Do you intentionally create space for feedback, new ideas, and honest conversation?

• Do people believe their perspective matters, even when it differs from yours?

These are important reflections because people may comply with authority, but they commit to leaders who make them feel valued. When people feel psychologically safe, trust deepens, communication improves, and teams perform at a higher level.

That is executive presence. And that is the IT Factor in action.

The Cost of a Team That Stops Speaking Up

When people stop feeling safe enough to speak honestly, leaders lose access to one of the most valuable things any team can offer: perspective. Communication narrows, assumptions replace clarity, and blind spots begin to grow, often unnoticed until the consequences become impossible to ignore.

I have seen talented employees slowly disengage, not because they no longer care, but because they no longer believe their voice matters. I have also seen leaders unintentionally surround themselves with agreement, mistaking compliance for alignment.

But agreement is not the same as trust. Healthy teams create space for honest conversation, productive disagreement, and diverse perspectives. They understand that challenging an idea is not the same as challenging a person. In fact, the willingness to speak openly is often a sign of trust, respect, and investment in a shared outcome.

This becomes even more important during times of uncertainty, rapid growth, or change. When pressure rises, communication often contracts. Leaders can become more direct. Teams become more cautious. Conversations become more guarded.

Ironically, these are the moments when openness, honesty, and intentional communication matter most.

Curiosity Changes the Entire Dynamic

One of the most powerful shifts a leader can make is moving from certainty to curiosity. That does not mean becoming passive or hesitant. It means creating space for conversation before immediately moving to conclusions.

Curiosity changes the energy in the room. When leaders lower their defensiveness and become genuinely open to other perspectives, people feel it. Participation increases. Trust deepens. People become more willing to contribute honestly because they feel seen, heard, and valued.

Sometimes the smallest shifts in leadership communication create the biggest impact:

• “What am I missing?”

• “Is there another perspective we should consider?”

• “Do you see this differently?”

Questions like these communicate something powerful: it is safe to speak honestly here. And when people feel safe enough to speak openly, leaders gain access to stronger collaboration, better conversations, and more thoughtful decision-making.

Curiosity is not a weakness. It is one of the clearest signs of confidence, self-awareness, and intentional leadership.

What Kind of Room Are You Creating?

Every leader shapes the emotional environment around them, whether they realize it or not. The question isn’t whether people are responding to your leadership. The question is: how are they responding?

Do people feel comfortable bringing concerns to you? Challenging ideas? Offering a different perspective? Do they feel psychologically safe enough to disagree respectfully? Or have they learned that staying quiet feels safer than being honest?

Those answers matter.

Building trust is not just about being open to feedback. It’s about creating the kind of environment where people feel safe enough to give it. The way we ask questions, respond to tension, and regulate our own reactions directly impacts the level of honesty, connection, and trust within a team.

I’ll be sharing more soon about the kinds of questions and conversations that help create deeper trust, stronger communication, and more intentional leadership.

Because in high-stakes environments, leadership is often measured by the safety others feel to speak honestly in your presence. True executive presence is less about commanding the room and more about creating the trust that allows people to bring their full selves forward.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of myserviceshere.

• My podcast, the"Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

You Are More Charismatic Than You Think. Here Is How to Own It.

The Fear That Hides Your Presence

Entrepreneur Jesse Itzler once said, "The best gift you can give yourself is getting over the fear of embarrassment because then you're completely free to try anything."

That line has stayed with me because it captures something I witness in my executive coaching all the time. When people believe they lack charisma, it’s rarely about skill, preparation, or even confidence. More often, it’s the fear of being truly seen, and the worry of not getting it right.

That fear is one of the biggest barriers I see holding accomplished leaders back from their most magnetic, authentic presence. Not because they are incapable of it. But somewhere along the way, they decided it was safer to hold back than to risk being too much, too visible, or imperfect in a room full of people watching.

So, instead of simply showing up, they manage how they appear. They present a controlled, safe version of themselves, rather than letting their real selves shine through. In doing so, they lose touch with the very quality that draws people in: their natural charisma.

Charisma Is Not What Most People Think It Is

When you hear the word charisma, you might picture someone who lights up a room, commands attention, tells captivating stories, and leaves every conversation feeling special. If you don’t see yourself that way, it’s easy to assume charisma is something you’re either born with or not.

But that simply isn’t true. Charisma isn’t a personality type or about being the loudest or most entertaining person in the room. It’s not reserved for a select few.

At its core, charisma is a blend of warmth, competence, and presence. It’s what happens when you show up in a way that makes others feel truly seen, heard, and valued. You don’t need to be loud or perfect. You just need to align who you are inside with how you show up on the outside.

That’s a very different definition than most people carry, and it changes everything about who can claim charisma.

The Introvert Advantage No One Talks About

One of the most common things I hear from leaders I coach is, “I’m just not that kind of person.”

Usually, they’re thinking of the performative, extroverted version of charisma that dominates our culture. They see someone commanding a stage or working a room and assume that’s what it takes to be magnetic.

But some of the most naturally charismatic leaders I have ever worked with are introverts. And research supports this. Studies suggest that more men than women identify as introverted, and many of them lead at the highest levels of business, technology, and public service. They have learned when and how to step beyond their natural comfort zone when the situation requires it, without abandoning who they are.

Being introverted is not a fixed limitation. It is merely a starting point. And many introverted leaders have a natural advantage in executive presence because they tend to listen more deeply, observe more carefully, and speak with greater deliberation, which are not weaknesses. Those are some of the most sought-after leadership qualities in high-stakes environments. You do not need a bombastic presence or a billion-watt nuclear reactor to be charismatic. A calming, intimate presence can be just as powerful and just as memorable. The question is not whether you have charisma. The question is whether you are allowing yourself access to it.

What Actually Makes a Leader Magnetic

If charisma isn’t about personality or performance, what is it really?

In my experience, charisma is all about alignment. When your inner experience matches your outer expression, people notice right away. There’s a natural coherence in how you speak, carry yourself, and connect with others. Nothing feels forced or rehearsed because it feels and is real. And real is what builds trust.

That’s the difference between charm and charisma. Charm is surface-level because it’s engaging and likable, but it doesn’t last. Charisma runs deeper. It’s what draws people to you, not because you’re entertaining, but because they feel something real in your presence.

The most magnetic leaders are the ones who stop worrying about how they’re perceived and start focusing on being fully present. That means getting comfortable with imperfection, accepting that not every room will respond the way you hope, and trusting that your authentic self is more compelling than any performance.

That takes courage, and it’s the foundation of what I call the IT Factor.

The IT Factor Is Not What You Think

The IT Factor seems as though someone "has it," as if it is a gift certain people were born with and others were not. But that is not what it is. Not even close.

The IT Factor is Intentional Transformation. It’s the ongoing, deliberate process of aligning your physical, mental, and relational self, so who you are and how you show up are in sync. It’s not a single breakthrough moment. It’s a practice. A daily choice to close the gap between the leader you know you can be and the presence you actually bring into the room.

From what I’ve seen, the leaders who develop the strongest executive presence aren’t the ones who start out with the most confidence. They’re the ones who stop performing and start practicing alignment. When they do, people respond differently because they’re letting more of their true selves shine through.

What Would Change If You Stopped Being Afraid to Be Seen?

Jesse Itzler’s insight is simple but powerful: get over the fear of embarrassment, and you’re free to try anything. In leadership, this is profound. What stands between most leaders and their most authentic, charismatic presence isn’t a lack of skill—it’s the fear of being seen in a way they can’t control.

What would change for you if you released that fear? Imagine what could change if you let that fear go. What if, the next time you walked into a room, you stopped worrying about how you’d be perceived and simply brought your most honest, authentic self? You don’t need to become someone new with a bigger personality, a louder voice, or a more polished exterior. You just need to stop hiding the presence you already have behind the fear that it’s not good enough. Start with a single, intentional choice to show up as who you are, and trust that it is more than enough.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of myserviceshere.

• My podcast, the"Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Don’t Waste the First 5 Seconds

1… 2… 3… 4… 5. That’s All It Takes to form for a First Impression.

In just three to five seconds, people begin forming a perception of you, before you have said a single word or even settled into the room. Your presence is already speaking for you, long before your ideas enter the conversation.

Many believe executive presence begins when you start speaking. In truth, it starts the instant you are seen. Research in social psychology confirms that first impressions form within seconds, and your posture, eye contact, and energy establish the tone for everything that follows. Those initial signals don’t just color how people perceive you in that moment. They become the lens through which your ideas, authority, and credibility are evaluated for the rest of the conversation.

That is an incredible amount of influence concentrated into a mere few seconds. It is also a remarkable opportunity.

When you understand how executive presence works before you speak, you can shape it with intention instead of leaving it to chance. So, the question is: does that first impression reflect how you want to show up?

What People See Before They Hear You

In those first  3-5 seconds, people are not evaluating your ideas. They are evaluating your non-verbal cues: how you carry yourself into the room, where you choose to sit, your eye contact, and your posture all communicate a message. 

These signals might feel subtle to you, but they speak volumes to others. In my years as an executive coach, I have seen this play out consistently. Leaders who walk in grounded and deliberate are experienced differently from those who rush in, look around for guidance, or fold into themselves the moment they sit down. No real content has been shared, but the people in the room have already formed an impression.

Where you sit matters too. Research shows that leaders who position themselves at the table, at eye level with their peers and counterparts, are perceived as more authoritative and engaged than those who sit along the edges or below the group's sightline. This is not about ego or hierarchy. It’s about the nonverbal signals your body positioning sends before you speak. It communicates whether you believe you belong in the room, and how others respond to that signal—consciously or not.

The Gap Between Intention and Perception

One truth that leaders don’t realize is that what you intend isn't always what others experience. This gap between intention and perception is where executive presence either earns trust or loses it. You might believe you are showing up with clarity and confidence, but others could be reading something entirely different:

• Confidence without self-awareness can register as arrogance. 

• Thoughtfulness, if not conveyed through your body language and vocal tone, can appear as hesitation or disengagement. 

• Even genuine interest in what someone is saying can be misread if you are not visibly present in the conversation.

I work with accomplished executives, senior leaders, and high-performing professionals who are  stunned to see themselves on camera for the first time. They had no idea that they looked uncertain when they felt sure, or guarded when they felt open, or appeared disengaged when they were fully invested. The gap between their internal experience and their external expression was real, and it was costing them credibility they had earned.

This gap is not a reflection of your capability, nor about being inauthentic.  Executive presence is a reflection of awareness. It is about developing enough self-knowledge to understand how your actions are being interpreted, and making intentional choices so that your presence genuinely reflects the leader you are. For anyone looking to improve executive presence, closing this gap is the single most important place to start.

What You Wear Communicates Before You Speak

Your presence is shaped not only by how you carry yourself, but also by how you present yourself visually. What you wear communicates your intentions, and it happens whether you are conscious of it or not.

A well-known study by researchers Adam and Galinsky clearly demonstrated this effect. There were two groups of participants. One group was given a white coat to wear, describing it as a doctor’s coat. The other group had no coat at all. The white coat group performed measurably better on tasks requiring sustained attention, and were perceived as more competent, trustworthy, and authoritative by observers, compared to those wearing no coat at all. The clothing itself did not change the person's ability. But it did change how others perceived them, and perhaps equally as important, how they perceived themselves.

This matters for executive presence because how you dress signals intentionality. It shows you understand the room, respect the moment, and take your role seriously. Don’t dress simply to impress others. Dress to reinforce the presence you want to embody, so your external expression aligns with your internal confidence.

A Simple Reset Before High-Stakes Moments

Strengthening your executive presence does not require reinventing how you lead or starting over from scratch. It begins with small, repeatable practices that compound over time into a noticeably different way of showing up.

During my years as a TV broadcast journalist, particularly anchoring breaking news, there was never time to find confidence in the moment. When the red light came on, preparation was over. What I learned instead was how to build my presence before I ever sat down at the desk. I managed my breath, grounded my energy, focused my mind, and became intentional about how I wanted to connect with the audience before the moment demanded it. In many ways, that became the foundation of what I now call the IT Factor: the alignment of your physical, mental, and relational presence. That practice carried me through decades of live television, and it is the same practice I teach executives today. When your internal state and external expression are aligned, you do not have to manufacture confidence. It reads as real because it is.

Before your next important moment, pause and do a brief internal check: 

• Is your posture grounded and open, or are you carrying tension in your shoulders and chest? 

• Are you breathing fully, or are you shallow-breathing from the stress of what is ahead? 

• When you enter the room, are you making deliberate eye contact with the people you are meeting, or scanning for your seat or checking your phone?

The Myth of Being Born with Executive Presence

Let me be clear about this: Executive presence is not something you are born with. It is something you build through awareness, practice, and intentional choices made over time. Your first few seconds set the tone for how your ideas are received, how your voice is heard, and how your leadership is experienced by the people around you. When you become more deliberate about how you show up in those moments, you demonstrate authentic influence and leadership.

This is one of the most accessible aspects of executive presence for any leader who has ever felt that their capabilities did not fully translate into how they were perceived. You do not need a new title. You need a more intentional relationship with how you show up in the seconds before anyone has heard you speak.

So the next time you walk into a room where your leadership matters, take a breath. Pause long enough to make an intentional choice about how you want to show up. Ask yourself: does the presence I am bringing into this room reflect the leader I am becoming? That is where transformation begins—not by chance, but by choice. If the answer is not yet, that is not a problem. That is the practice. And every room you walk into is another opportunity to align your presence with your purpose and become more intentional about the leader you choose to be.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of myserviceshere.

• My podcast, the"Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Are You Taking Up the Right Amount of Space?

Have you ever found yourself in a room where you know you belong, but still hold back? You wait for the perfect moment to speak, you soften your perspective, or you choose silence over the risk of interruption. On the surface, it can look like thoughtfulness or professional restraint. On the inside, it often feels like hesitation. But over time, it has a cost.

Many high-achieving professionals, especially women in leadership, learn to walk this line early in their careers. You do not want to dominate the conversation, but you do not want to fade into the background either. That careful balancing act becomes second nature. And without realizing it, it can quietly shape how others experience your executive presence long before you have said a word.

The Difference Between Restraint and Self-Suppression

There is an important distinction that most leadership conversations never make: the difference between intentional restraint and habitual self-suppression. Intentional restraint is a choice. You listen, you observe, you wait for the moment when your contribution will have the greatest impact. That is a genuine leadership skill and a sign of emotional intelligence.

Habitual self-suppression, on the other hand, forms when holding back stops being a conscious decision and starts being your default. It’s what happens when the original reason for staying quiet (such as not wanting to seem aggressive, not wanting to stand out, or not wanting to be wrong) fades into the background, while the behavior remains. You are no longer making a strategic choice. You are operating from a habit you may have never consciously chosen.

And that habit, repeated across rooms, meetings, and high-stakes moments, erodes your executive presence one moment at a time.

The Invisible Cost of Playing Small

When you consistently take up less space than you have earned, the impact compounds. Ideas go unshared. Contributions go unnoticed. Opportunities move forward without your voice in the conversation.

This is not abstract. Research consistently shows that executive presence, the way you are perceived before, during, and after you speak, is one of the most significant factors in career advancement. Studies suggest executive presence accounts for as much as 26 percent of what it takes to get promoted into senior leadership. And a major component of that 26% is visibility: whether people register you as fully present, fully engaged, and fully confident in your right to be in the room.

When you shrink, even in small ways, it makes you easier to overlook. Not because your ideas aren’t powerful, but because your presence isn’t fully aligned with them.

Make One Small Shift

I was reminded of this in a very tangible way. Following my keynote, a woman came up to me sharing that she had recently stepped into a new leadership role at a tech-focused investment firm. She was the only woman on her team, and often struggled to feel seen and heard in meetings.

As we talked, something immediately stood out. She is petite in size and therefore, the height of the conference room table’s surface hit closer to her chest than her waist, which unintentionally made her appear smaller in the room — both physically and perceptually.

I offered her one suggestion: raise your chair.

It may sound almost too simple. But in that moment, it was about more than physical positioning. It was about claiming equal footing. When you sit lower than everyone around you, you can appear less authoritative before you have said a single word. That small adjustment, can literally elevate you to eye level, and it changes how others perceive your executive presence and how you experience your own authority.

Sometimes taking up space starts with something as practical as where you sit and how high.

Redefining What It Means to Take Up Space

Taking up space does not mean dominating the room or speaking the most. It means aligning how you show up physically, vocally, and energetically with the value you bring. It means letting your ideas be heard without over-editing them first. It means trusting that your perspective belongs in the conversation—not once you have proven yourself, but now. And it means noticing when you have made yourself smaller to fit an expectation that no longer serves the leader you are becoming.

For many professionals who pride themselves on being thoughtful and collaborative, this shift can feel uncomfortable at first. That discomfort is not a sign that something is wrong. It is a sign that you are stepping into a version of yourself that is more fully expressed, more fully present, and more fully aligned. That is exactly what building executive presence looks like from the inside.

How Body Language Speaks Volumes, and Shifts To Make Today

Developing executive presence is not only about what you say. It is about what you communicate before you ever open your mouth. Your posture, your position in the room, and even the way you hold your hands all shape how others experience you. 

Throughout my career in broadcasting, I became highly attuned to these signals. I rarely, if ever, sat with my hands clasped tightly in front of me on the news desk. That posture reads as closed off, and guarded. Instead, I kept my hands open, relaxed, and visible. Open hands communicate confidence, availability, and a genuine willingness to engage—even through a TV screen. These are details that are easy to overlook, but they matter enormously. Long before your words are registered, your executive presence is already being evaluated.

If you want to strengthen your executive presence, start with awareness. Notice where you sit in the room, your posture and what your hands are doing. Notice when you hesitate to contribute, and pay attention to the thought that surfaces in that moment. Is it strategic restraint, or is it an old habit showing up without an invitation?

Then choose one small adjustment. 

• Sit at the table rather than along the perimeter. 

• Raise your chair. 

• Share your perspective without the qualifier at the beginning. 

• Keep your hands open. 

• Speak without apologizing for speaking. 

These adjustments may seem insignificant, but over time they shift something much larger: how others perceive and experience your executive presence, and just as importantly, how you experience your own authority as a leader.

Your Presence Is Not Accidental

Executive presence is not a personality trait reserved for the loudest or most confident person in the room. It is something every leader can develop, and it begins with self-awareness and intention.

The way you take up space, physically, vocally, and energetically, is already communicating something to every room you walk into. The real question is whether that communication reflects the leader you know yourself to be?

So the next time you find yourself in a room where your voice matters, pause and ask yourself: Am I taking up the space I have earned?

If the answer is not yet, that is not a flaw. It is simply an invitation to do more - and it starts with a single, intentional choice.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of myserviceshere.

• My podcast, the"Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

How to Start a New Chapter Without Burning the Old One Down

The Pressure to Reinvent All at Once

Many people believe that starting a new chapter means making a clean break from everything that came before; leave your old role behind, reinvent your identity, and distance yourself from your past. It can seem as if the only way to move forward is to start from scratch.

The real question isn’t what you need to leave behind, but what experiences you intentionally choose to carry forward?

Honoring What Came Before

In my experience, true transformation doesn’t require you to erase your past. It’s about honoring where you’ve been and recognizing how those experiences have shaped you. Every chapter adds valuable insight, perspective, and strength that guide you as you step into what’s next. Throughout your career, you've built achievements you’re proud of. You poured your time, energy, and intention into developing your skills and credibility. That foundation doesn’t vanish just because you’re ready to embrace a new opportunity.

As you step into a new chapter, you might worry that acknowledging your past could hold you back, but in reality, honoring what came before gives you a stronger foundation to build on. You’re not leaving behind who you were, you’re building it towards who you want to become with more clarity and confidence.

Communicating Change with Clarity and Confidence

One of the biggest challenges in any transition is communicating your decision to colleagues, clients, and even friends or family who may not immediately understand your shift. Questions will come up. Assumptions may follow. In these moments, it’s easy to feel defensive or to over-explain your choices. But you don't need to justify your evolution. Strong leadership is about communicating your new direction with clarity and grounded confidence. 

When you communicate your change from a place of alignment, share your vision with intention and consistency, others will sense your conviction and come to respect your decision. In the long run, transparency helps create a foundation of credibility and confidence.

Navigating the Space Between Chapters

The space between what was and what’s next can feel uncertain. You may no longer feel defined by your previous role, but you might not yet feel fully established in your new one. This in-between phase can be uncomfortable, even for seasoned leaders.

But surprisingly, this is where the most meaningful growth can happen. This space invites reflection, challenges your assumptions, and encourages you to become more intentional about how you show up and what you stand for. You might notice patterns that have followed you from past experiences, or discover new strengths and interests you hadn’t recognized before.

Rather than rushing through this phase, allow yourself to move slowly and notice what emerges. With patience and self-compassion, you may find that the clarity you seek is often found here, not just after you arrive at your next chapter.

Re-Creation, Not Reinvention

True growth isn’t about reinventing yourself. It’s aboutre-creating from a place of wholeness.

Reinvention often carries the idea that you need to start over, as if who you’ve been is no longer relevant. But I believe a more grounded approach is to recognize that your experiences, skills, and perspective still have value. Even the challenges you have overcome all continue to shape how you lead and how you show up. This opens the door to a more grounded and lasting transformation.You start to see your past experiences as a source of strength rather than something to distance yourself from. They inform your voice, deepen your perspective, and shape the way you lead. 

I invite you to take a moment to reflect on what you want to carry forward from what you have already built.

As I’ve stepped into my own new chapters, I’ve reflected on my own transitions, which only added to each chapter while writing Dare to Own You. In my best-selling book, I share both personal experiences and practical tools to take the first step towards finding your authentic voice and moving forward with greater clarity.

As you consider your next steps, remember that growth isn’t about discarding the past but building on the foundation you’ve already laid. “No Knowledge is Ever Wasted,” said my Grandmother, Dr. Dorothy Dunning Chacko. Each chapter prepares you for the next, offering lessons, insights, and strengths to carry forward. A new chapter doesn’t require leaving everything behind; it invites you to move forward with intention, keeping what serves you and releasing what no longer aligns.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of myserviceshere.

• My podcast, the"Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.
  

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Where Are You Fooling Yourself? Leadership Blind Spots You Don’t See

Limiting Beliefs That May Be Tricking You

In leadership, we often focus on awareness, how you show up for others—but just as critical is how you show up for yourself. Even the most accomplished leaders fall into a subtle trap: the automatic belief that your thoughts must be true, regardless of your skills or experience. You  accept them without question. Over time, these quiet internal stories—your limiting beliefs—become powerful barriers to growth.

The stories you tell yourself shape your decisions, your confidence, and your willingness to step forward—or not. Many were formed in an earlier chapter of your life. They may have served you then, but they may no longer reflect who you are—or who you’re becoming. 

Recognizing Familiar Beliefs As Invisible Limits

Take a moment to step back and ask yourself: Is this actually true? Is there real evidence to support this belief? Intentional transformation begins when you pause to question what you’ve been accepting as truth—regardless of evidence to the contrary—and recognize those thoughts as invisible limits.

Feelings are not always facts. Often what feels like fact is simply familiarity and familiarity can be misleading. As leaders, you are encouraged to trust your instincts, but true self-leadership calls for discernment. It’s important to recognize the difference between intuition and assumption, between grounded awareness and beliefs you’ve simply inherited. If left unexamined, these quiet beliefs can shape how you lead, causing hesitation or hold you back in moments that require clarity and confidence.

On the surface, you may appear steady and capable, but underneath, there may be a hidden misalignment: a sense that you’re not fully stepping into the leader you are meant to be. Your confidence begins to fade, not because you lack ability, but because your internal story no longer fits the person you’ve become.

Find the Courage to Question Your Own Narrative

Recognizing these patterns is one thing; questioning them is another. Over time, these beliefs can feel justified—so ingrained that you no longer see them as beliefs, but as truth.

That’s why questioning your inner dialogue requires a different kind of courage. It isn’t about pushing harder or overriding your thoughts. It’s about creating space to examine them with curiosity and honesty:

When a limiting thought surfaces:

“I’m not ready.”

“This isn’t the right time.”

“I don’t have enough experience.”

Try taking a step back, and ask yourself:

“Is this actually true? If so, why?”

“Where did this assumption come from?”

“Would I say this to someone I respect and believe in?”

You may not have a perfect answer right away, and that’s okay. The goal isn’t to force certainty, but to begin separating what is fact from what is simply familiar. This practice strengthens your self-awareness and helps you recognize when an old narrative is shaping a current decision.

Instead of following your usual narrative, you have the power to decide—to choose differently—which beliefs deserve your trust, and then, let them go, and align with the person you want to become.

The Moment You Stop Being Fooled

This is where real confidence begins to take shape; your internal beliefs match your current reality. When that alignment is present, your decisions become clearer, your voice steadier, and your leadership more intentional. You stop reacting with outdated assumptions and start responding from a place of awareness. New possibilities emerge because your thinking has made room for them. Once you see the pattern, it’s much harder to be fooled by it again.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of myserviceshere.

• My podcast, the"Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

The Future of Female Leadership: Embodying Confidence, Clarity, and Connection

Moving Beyond Confidence and Credentials

Women have made remarkable progress in leadership. We’ve earned our titles, claimed our seats at the table, and proven our expertise. Credentials and education are no longer the barriers they once were. But as we look ahead to 2026 and beyond, it’s clear that the next chapter of female leadership calls for something more.

Confidence and credentials are important, but they’re not the whole story. The next evolution of women’s leadership isn’t about proving what we can do—it’s about embodying presence. It’s about leading with clarity, discernment, and genuine connection. Real growth happens when we move from performing to aligning with our true selves.

The End of Hustle as a Leadership Strategy

For years, high-achieving women were told to speak up, lean in, and hustle harder to get ahead. That was the only way forward. You had to push more, work longer, and deliver perfectly. While that mindset may have opened doors, it’s not what sustains long-term leadership. Yes, resilience and ambition are still valuable, but the future of female leadership requires intention. We must have the ability to pause, evaluate, and choose intentionally rather than reacting from pressure. This is key to emotional intelligence and avoiding burnout. Instead of asking, “How can I do more?” ask yourself, “What truly matters right now?”

When you protect your energy and elevate your strategy, you lead from discernment instead of urgency.

When Presence Becomes Empowerment

Executive presence is often mistaken for just polish. But true presence begins from within. It’s the alignment of  your physical, mental, and relational self. When you’re grounded in who you are, your leadership becomes intentional instead of reactive.

For women, embodiment means no longer separating who you are from how you lead. It’s trusting your instincts in high-stakes moments and speaking with unapologetic conviction. Embodied confidence isn’t loud. It’s steady, grounded, and unmistakable.

I have seen this transformation in countless executive coaching sessions. When a woman stops asking, “What will they think of me?” and instead asks, “How do I want to lead?” everything shifts. Her communication becomes clearer and decisions become more aligned. Her influence deepens because it is no longer rooted in external validation, but in authenticity.

Leading in Alignment, Not for Applause

Social platforms, performance reviews, and public recognition all amplify the need for external validation in today’s hyper-visible world. But alignment is what creates true and lasting credibility.

Aligned leadership means your decisions reflect your values, and your communication matches your convictions. The way you lead behind closed doors is the same as how you lead in public. This integrity builds trust, and trust is the foundation of modern leadership. When you anchor your leadership in alignment, you stop chasing approval and start building self-trust.

Connection as a Leadership Strength

The most impactful leaders know influence grows when there is trust, where people genuinely feel understood, and where real connection is present. Not the kind built on people-pleasing, but the kind rooted in clarity and confidence. 

Connection remains one of the greatest strengths of female leadership. It is a superpower many women already possess. Connection doesn’t require you to soften your voice. It requires you to strengthen your presence so others can meet you there.

When women lead with grounded authenticity, they create environments where ideas move freely, conversations are honest, and collaboration feels natural rather than forced. In a rapidly changing world, the leaders who thrive will be those who align performance with purpose and strategy with humanity. When connection is rooted in clarity, it doesn’t dilute authority, it multiplies influence.

A Vision for 2026 and Beyond

As we celebrate Women’s History Month, we honor the pioneers who opened doors. But the future of female leadership won’t be defined by access alone. It will be defined by embodiment, clarity, and connection.

The women shaping 2026 and beyond are not performing under pressure, they are leading with intention. They trust their voice.

If you’re stepping into a new level of leadership, ask yourself: “Am I performing under pressure, or am I leading with clarity, confidence, connection and intention?”

The future of female leadership isn’t about proving your worth. It’s about aligning with who you truly are, and leading from that place, unapologetically.

That future isn’t coming. It’s already here.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

The Power of the Pause: Why Stillness Is a Strategic Advantage

In a Culture of Urgency, Stillness Feels Radical

We live in a world that prizes speed, visibility, and instant reaction. It’s easy to feel pressure to respond quickly, to prove decisiveness, or to fill every silence. But in my experience, the most impactful leaders aren’t necessarily the first to speak, but rather, they are the most intentional. True leadership begins with a pause.

The pause is one of my favorite leadership tools because it’s simple yet powerful. Pausing isn’t passive or a sign of avoidance nor insecurity. It’s a strategic choice. In that brief space between stimulus and response, you gain clarity, strengthen your emotional intelligence, and ground your executive presence. When leaders cultivate this kind of self-leadership, they communicate with greater confidence and alignment.

Why the Strongest Leaders Don’t Respond First

In high-stakes environments, whether in a boardroom, on a stage, or during a difficult conversation, the strongest leaders do not respond first. They respond best. They understand that urgency and importance are not the same thing. When leaders rush to answer, defend, or correct, they often sacrifice alignment and erode trust. When they pause, even for a few seconds, they allow their physical, mental, and relational selves to come back into sync, reinforcing authentic executive presence. This is how to build trust and show up as your most authentic self.

Neuroscience confirms what many leaders already sense: our nervous system reacts before our logic does. Without a pause, we fall back on old habits. With a pause, we regain the power to choose our words, tone, and energy. That’s the difference between reacting and leading with intention. True confidence comes from clarity, not speed.

Using a Pause as a Practice for Presence

In my nearly thirty years anchoring live television, breaking news never waited for me to feel ready. There was no script for the unexpected. What I could control was my internal state. I learned to use my breath as an anchor. Taking a few steady breaths before speaking helped me manage stress and deliver with calm authority. That habit has shaped every keynote, coaching session, and important decision since. Presence is more than a performance in front of others. It’s a practice built on self-awareness and consistency.

Pausing is especially powerful when you face conflict or criticism. If someone challenges your idea or questions your leadership, it’s natural to want to defend yourself. But defensiveness doesn’t build trust or influence. Taking a pause shows emotional intelligence and confidence. And in doing so, it gives you space to listen fully before responding, elevating your credibility and deepening your connection with others.

Stillness is a Secret, Strategic Advantage

This is why stillness is a strategic advantage in modern leadership. In a culture addicted to urgency and constant output, the boldest move is often restraint. Pausing long enough to ask yourself, “What is truly needed in this moment?” transforms your leadership from performative to purposeful. It shifts you from managing impressions to embodying presence and alignment.

If you want to strengthen your executive presence or avoid burnout from constant reactivity, start small. Start with a single breath. Before your next meeting, pause. Before you answer a tough question, pause. Before you send that email written in frustration, pause. Notice how even a brief moment of stillness can help you reset and return to intentional leadership.

Leadership isn’t about how fast you react. It’s about how intentionally you respond. When you use the power of the pause, you take back control of your voice, your energy, and your impact. In that stillness, you’ll often discover your greatest strength: the clarity to lead with purpose.

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Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have…

The One With Yourself

This season is filled with reminders of love: cards, flowers, special dinners, and grand gestures. We honor the relationships that matter most. Yet, there’s one relationship that quietly influences every decision, every conversation, and every leadership moment, but rarely receives the same attention.

It’s the relationship you have with yourself.

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for how you show up at work, at home, and as a leader. When you are grounded in clarity, confidence, and self-trust, your executive presence feels authentic and steady. When that foundation is missing, everything feels heavier. You may second-guess your choices, stretch your energy too thin, and wonder why success doesn’t feel as rewarding as it should.

Before you can lead others or develop stronger teams, you must first lead yourself.

The Quiet Signs You’re Out of Alignment

Misalignment whispers in those quiet moments, almost without a trace. It can show up as fatigue that lingers, tension before meetings you once enjoyed, or a quiet sense of dread on Sunday evenings. You might find yourself asking, Why does something feel off when everything looks good on paper, and my career is moving forward?

When your actions no longer align with who you are, your body and energy notice first. You might second-guess decisions, overthink conversations, or move through your day on autopilot. These are not flaws; they are signals. They are invitations to slow down, check in with yourself, and focus on your wellbeing and growth. Your inner voice is often the first and most honest leadership advisor you have, if you’re willing to listen.

Why Self-Alignment Is a Form of Self-Respect

Leadership development often focuses on strategy, communication, and performance. While those are important, true and lasting leadership begins with a deep sense of self-awareness and self-respect.

If your calendar, commitments, or career path are driven by what looks impressive instead of what feels true, resentment can build quietly. You say “yes” when you mean “maybe,” take on more when your energy is already stretched, and keep trying to prove yourself even after you’ve earned your place.

Over time, that disconnect turns into burnout. Honoring your values, strengths, and needs is not indulgent. It is essential for preventing burnout and achieving long-term success. When you respect your boundaries and energy, you lead with clarity, presence, and confidence. You make choices from intention, not obligation, and those around you notice your steadiness.

Self-alignment is the foundation of authentic leadership. When you lead from who you truly are, others trust and follow you.

How to Practice Self-Love as a Leader, All Year Long

Self-love doesn’t have to be complicated, or even dramatic. It could mean setting a boundary around your time, delegating a task you’ve been holding onto, having a conversation you’ve been postponing, or giving yourself permission to pursue what truly excites you instead of what just looks good on your résumé.

These are not grand gestures that require devoted energy that you don’t have. They are small, intentional actions that support your growth and long-term success. Over time, these choices add up to real, lasting transformation. The most important first step towards self-love is finding the courage to show up and choose yourself in these small, meaningful moments above everything (and everyone) else.

So this month, take the time to reflect on what you’ve been putting off in order to prioritize others’ interests or what seems to be expected of you. You’ll realize the impact it has on the way you show up for others, and how valuable self-love really is. Continue taking these small steps year-round through every season and holiday.

Love Yourself Enough to Listen

We often picture self-love as soft and comforting. But in reality, it takes courage. Self-love means telling yourself the truth. It is noticing when something no longer fits and being willing to adjust. It is choosing alignment over appearance, and treating yourself with the same respect and compassion you offer others.

And it isn’t seasonal.

February may remind us to think about love, but the relationship you have with yourself is one you lead every day. The stronger and more honest it is, the more grounded, confident, and impactful your leadership becomes. Because the way you lead your life begins with the way you lead yourself.

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Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Are You Growing, or Just Advancing?

On paper, everything seems to line up. Your title grows, the responsibilities multiply, and your calendar is packed. Your résumé becomes a checklist of progress, signaling to the world that you’re moving forward in your career and leadership journey. From the outside, it looks like success. But here’s a question I frequently hear from high-achieving leaders: Why doesn’t it feel the way I imagined it would?

You won’t often hear it spoken in the boardroom. It usually surfaces in a quiet moment, completely unexpected. All your goals are met, the metrics achieved, and the promotion secured. Yet something feels off. That quiet discomfort isn’t about being ungrateful, and it’s not just burnout. More often, it’s the deeper realization: you’ve been advancing professionally, but not truly growing personally.

Advancement vs. Growth

Advancement builds your résumé, but growth builds who you are.

Advancement is external. It’s measurable, visible, and easy for others to recognize. It shows up as a new title, a bigger team, a higher salary, or more influence. It becomes just another talking point to use at networking events and family gatherings to explain how well things are going.

Growth is different. It’s internal, subtle, and deeply personal; only visible to you. It shows up as clarity, grounded confidence, and alignment between what you say yes to, and what truly matters to you. It’s the feeling of walking into a room with executive presence and being fully yourself, not just performing the role you think you should play.

What most don’t realize is that you can advance for years without ever truly growing. I’ve worked with leaders and professionals who have all the credentials in the world and still feel disconnected from their own lives. They’ve mastered performance and learned how to say the right things, wear the right things, and hit every target. But underneath it all, they’re exhausted. Performing success and embodying success are two very different experiences.

When Achievements Outpace Personal Evolution

Over the years, I’ve noticed a pattern in leaders. It often sounds like this: I should be happier. I’ve worked so hard to get here. So why does it feel heavier than I expected? That’s usually the moment something important is uncovered: achievements have outpaced personal evolution and leadership growth. They keep saying yes to what looks impressive or expected, without pausing to ask if those steps still align with who they are becoming.

So they stay busy, productive, and responsible, but quietly misaligned. Often, the body knows before the mind does. Work that once felt meaningful starts to feel mechanical, and you’re completely drained of energy. You wake up already tired because you’re carrying a role that no longer fits.

When Ambition Becomes a Disguise

Ambition is a beautiful thing. It pushes us to grow, stretch, and try new things. But sometimes, ambition becomes a distraction. It keeps us chasing the next milestone so we don’t have to sit with the harder questions:

• Do I actually want this, or am I just proving that I can achieve it?

• Is this role aligned with my values and purpose, or is it just meeting other people’s expectations?

• Am I building a life and leadership path that feels meaningful, or one that only looks impressive from the outside?

I know this tension firsthand. When I left an established career in television, many people thought I was walking away from success. On paper, everything was working. But inside, I knew something had shifted. My growth required courage. It meant facing uncertainty and letting go of an identity that had defined me for decades. But it also gave me something advancement never could: true alignment.

Having the Courage to Be Honest

Stop letting performance reviews or productivity metrics dictate how you really feel about your progress in life. Instead, it’s time to be honest and reflect. Pause everything and face the questions that most people avoid:

• Who am I becoming?

• What feels heavy or forced?

• What parts of my life feel energizing?

• Where am I operating out of habit instead of intention?

These questions require courage, but they lead to inner clarity and awareness. This is the first step towards real growth and intentional transformation. When you understand yourself more deeply, your decisions become more aligned with who you are. Take the effort to clearly understand what fits and what doesn’t, and then you can make conscious choices about what to carry forward and what to let go.

The Real Measurement of Growth

After decades in front of the camera, on stages, and coaching leaders across industries, here’s one takeaway that I want you to leave with today: real growth changes how you show up. It transforms your presence, the energy you bring into a room, and how grounded you feel when things don’t go as planned. It’s the quiet confidence that comes from alignment and self-trust, not just achievement.

Advancement might take you higher, but growth is what makes the journey meaningful. Before you chase the next title, the next role, or the next milestone, pause and ask yourself: Am I truly growing, or just advancing? Your next chapter shouldn’t just look better, it should feel like you.

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Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top-level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

​My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”.

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

The Leadership Skill That’s Hardest to Fake: Presence That Holds a Room

People don’t respond to what you say, but to who you are in the moment you share it.

That’s the difference between true influence and just adding to the noise. In leadership, presence is the one skill you can’t delegate or fake for long. It’s the energy people sense before you even speak, and it’s often why they choose to trust, follow, or remember you.

So why is presence so difficult to imitate? What makes it such a powerful differentiator for leaders? And, how you can intentionally build the kind of presence that truly holds a room?

Why People Read Energy Before They Register Words

Long before someone processes what you’re saying, they’re scanning your tone, body language, and emotional congruence. Neuroscience shows that humans are wired to detect nonverbal cues in milliseconds. This is especially true in high-stakes environments—boardrooms, keynotes, interviews—where people are subconsciously asking: Do I feel safe with you? Do I trust you? Are you walking your talk?

Presence isn’t about theatrics or trying to command the room with volume. It’s about creating resonance. When your inner state matches your outward expression, your presence becomes magnetic. If there’s a disconnect, people sense it even if they can’t put it into words. Presence is about energy first, and content second.

Micro-Behaviors That Signal Confidence (or Insecurity)

The most impactful leaders are often the most subtle. Why? Because true confidence reveals itself in the smallest behaviors:

• Eye contact that’s steady, not forceful.

• Posture that’s open and grounded, not defensive or overbearing.

• Pauses that reflect thoughtfulness, not fear.

• Stillness that conveys authority, not anxious energy.

On the other hand, when we try to perform with confidence, it often comes across as overcompensating; talking too much, over-explaining, fidgeting, or even arrogance. Even if these habits are unconscious, they send a clear message.

The good news is that presence is a skill you can practice. When you learn to regulate your internal experience, especially during stressful moments, your microbehaviors will naturally reflect that calm and confidence.

Why “Performative Confidence” Collapses Under Pressure

Many aspiring leaders fall into the trap of trying to act confidently instead of truly being confident. But when stress arrives, that surface-level confidence often falls away.

I’ve seen this with clients who can deliver a flawless presentation in private, but struggle when the spotlight is on. Or executives who rely on rehearsed scripts, only to freeze when the conversation takes an unexpected turn. The reason? Confidence that isn’t grounded in self-awareness rarely holds up under pressure. True presence is resilient. It’s not about being perfect, but about being steady, prepared, and aligned with your purpose.

The key is to shift from performing to embodying presence. Instead of asking, 'How do I look?' try asking, 'How do I want to show up at this moment?'

How I Developed Presence Live On-Camera

During my nearly three decades anchoring live television, I learned firsthand what presence under pressure truly means. Oftentimes, there were no second chances. When breaking news interrupted everything I had prepared, there was no space for panic.

My role was more than just delivering the news. I needed to be the calm in the chaos, offering a sense of grounded authority that helped viewers feel informed and safe. One of the most appreciated comments I ever received from viewers was that while they realized I often had to share “bad news,” somehow coming from me, they knew everything would be ok. Today, I share those same “presence principles” with leaders and speakers. The lesson is clear: presence isn’t a personality trait, but a skill you can practice and a state you can cultivate. And it always starts from within.

How to Build Unshakeable Presence

Building presence isn’t about charisma. It’s about self-regulation, intention, and alignment. Here are a few suggestions on how to build this presence:

1. Use Your Breath as an Anchor: Grounding begins in the body. Before a high-stakes moment, try this centering technique: take three slow, conscious breaths.

2. Clarify your why: Presence deepens when you connect to your purpose. Ask yourself: “Why does this moment matter? What does this person, team or audience need from me right now?

3. The power of the pause: Confidence lives in the pause. Before answering a tough question or delivering a key message, give yourself a moment of silence. That pause allows you to breathe, collect your thoughts, and respond with clarity rather than react with urgency.

When you look within and invest in yourself, you can rewire your nervous system and reshape your relationship with visibility and impact.

Final Word: Real Presence Can’t Be Faked

The leaders we remember are those who make us feel something: calm, confidence, trust, and inspiration. That is presence. It’s not a performance or a persona, but a true expression of who you are, aligned with your values and what you stand for. So the next time you prepare for a speech, a challenging conversation, or a defining career moment, ask yourself:

• What energy am I bringing into the room?

• What truth am I willing to embody?

• And how can I ground myself in something deeper than performance?

Because presence isn’t what you project. It’s what you practice.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Before You Write Your New Year Goals, Ask This One Essential Question:

"Who are you choosing to become—day by day, choice by choice?"

It’s a question many of us overlook in January, and it’s often why our goals lose momentum by February. People fail to realize that setting goals without aligning them to their authentic selves is rarely effective. When your ambitions don’t reflect who you truly are, or who you’re ready to become, you’re building your future on a shaky foundation.

As a keynote speaker and coach—and someone who has experienced a complete professional reinvention—I’ve seen this in myself and in others: The most meaningful goals don’t begin with what you want. They begin with who you are willing to become, and by making the choices daily. Motivation is a feeling. Discipline is action. So before you finalize your goals, grab your planner, or draft that vision board… pause. And ask yourself this one, powerful, uncomfortable question.

Why Most Resolutions Fail Before February

We’ve all witnessed this pattern. Whether at the gym, in the boardroom, or in our personal growth journals, we start the year energized and determined. But somewhere between January 1st and February 15th, that momentum fades. Life gets busy, and we slip back into familiar patterns—not because we lack willpower, but because our goals weren’t anchored in something meaningful and executable. 

Here’s what’s really going on:

• The goal is identity-aspirational, but not behavior-anchored.
  When goals focus only on identity (“who I want to be”) without translating that identity into specific actions (“how I behave”), they’re difficult to sustain. Identity becomes powerful only when it’s expressed through clear, repeatable outcomes. For example, saying “I want to be seen as the smartest person in the room” is identity-driven, which can be vague and doesn’t necessarily set you up for success. On the other hand, being more specific by saying, “I want my conversations to build trust,” is outcome-driven and far more actionable.

• The goal is rooted in intention, not commitment.
  Intention reflects what we hope will happen, sparking inspiration and meaning. But intention alone can only take you so far. Commitment reflects what we’re willing to consistently choose, and translates vision into behavior. Commitment delivers because it’s anchored in daily decisions, not just good intentions.

• The goal is focused on belief, not behavior.
  Belief feels powerful because it lives in our identity. We tell ourselves, “I just need to believe in myself more.” And while belief matters, it’s also invisible and might not change anything in your daily life. Behavior is instead observable, manifesting in new habits and choices when motivation fades. Focus on clear, measurable actions that give belief somewhere to land.

Unless you’ve done the deeper internal work, those goals rarely last. The real challenge goes beyond time management and into alignment.

What Leaders Often Get Wrong About Goals: Identity Without Behavior

In executive coaching sessions, I work with high-performing leaders who are no strangers to goal-setting. They’ve been trained to think in milestones, KPIs, and outcomes. But metrics alone do not create truly impactful leadership. The most transformative leaders, those who inspire, influence, and innovate, are not just focused on results. These questions can be translated into reflections of your identity while still focusing on behavioral shifts and commitment. For example, leaders should instead be asking:

• How do I truly envision myself becoming by the end of this year?

• What habits reflect that identity, and how can I incorporate them?

• What patterns am I willing to release in order to grow and lead differently?

When you begin with identity, the strategy naturally follows. If you skip this step, you may find yourself working hard, but moving in the wrong direction.

The Real Question: Who Are You Becoming?

Each January, we tend to focus on doing more. But, what if this year growth came from letting go of what no longer serves you? Who are you becoming, and what do you need to let go of to move forward? This is the heart of Intentional Transformation™. Becoming the next version of yourself is not just about building new habits. It’s about how you consistently show up. It is also about letting go of the stories, relationships, roles, or routines that no longer align with your direction.

Ask yourself:

• What am I clinging to that no longer serves me?

• What version of myself am I trying to protect or prove?

• What am I willing to let go of in service of something greater?

Gaining this level of clarity is not always easy, but it is where true transformation begins.

How I Designed My Next Chapter With Intention

When I stepped away from my career as a television news anchor after nearly 30 years, sure, I had a vision, but I did not have a guaranteed path ahead of me. What I did have was alignment.  I knew I wanted to help others step into their next chapter with confidence and clarity. I wanted to speak, coach, and build a life that felt true to who I am.

So I got honest with myself. I let go of the identity I had held onto for decades. I also let go of perfectionism and chose courage over certainty. I built a new chapter around the values that mattered most to me: presence, authenticity, influence, and intentional growth. That journey is now the foundation of The IT Factor™, and it’s what I teach others to do every day.

A Final Word of Tough Love

If you are setting goals this year simply because they look good on paper, pause for a moment.

If you are building a vision based on who you think you should be, rather than who you truly are, take a moment to reflect.

If you’re sprinting toward success without ever asking whether it aligns with your core identity... Breathe.

Start with the real question: “Who are you choosing to become?” And what are you truly ready to leave behind?

That’s where your next chapter begins.

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​Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Reinvention in January Is Overrated

We’ve all seen the headlines promising a “New Year, New You!” But true reinvention isn’t reserved for January. The first month of the year doesn’t hold a monopoly on transformation. In fact, if you’re waiting for the calendar to flip before you change something meaningful in your life or leadership, you may be missing your most powerful window of clarity: right now.

The Myth of “January Motivation”

There’s an alluring energy to the start of the new year. January promises a clean slate, a chance to start over. Yet, too often, this energy is clouded by pressure and unrealistic expectations. By the time February arrives, the sparkle has worn off, the gym is empty again, and many of us are left wondering what happened to all that momentum.

Why? Because change isn’t about the calendar, it’s about commitment. And if we’re honest, most of our best transformations don’t begin on January 1st. They start in our quiet moments of reflection when no one is watching. They begin when we stop chasing motivation and start tuning into what actually matters.

Why December Is Where Emotional Clarity Happens

After a year filled with deadlines and decisions, December may feel like a wind-down month—which is important for one’s well-being—but that slower pace is also an opportunity to take a step back and figure out what’s working and what isn’t. December invites us to take inventory:

What fueled you this year? What drained you? Where did you show up fully? Where did you hold back? Where did you say yes, when you maybe should have said no?

This emotional clarity is not a distraction from your goals. It is the foundation that supports them.

What Happens When Leaders Wait for the Calendar

One of the most common traps I see in leadership coaching is the “I’ll start after the holidays” mindset. But transformation doesn’t wait for a calendar cue. If you wait for January to claim your next chapter, you’re only delaying that very momentum you’re craving.

Intentional leaders don’t wait for permission. They give themselves permission. They act in the present, aligning themselves with their values before anyone else tells them to. Real meaningful change is rarely loud or flashy. It begins with a quiet decision to give yourself permission to do things differently, now.

Micro-Moves You Can Make Before the Year Ends

You don’t need to transform your entire life before midnight on December 31st. But you can start shifting the energy with a few intentional steps:

• Pause and reflect: Set aside one hour for yourself this month. No agenda. Just ask, What have I learned about myself this year? What am I ready to let go of?

• Clear one thing: Whether it’s a drawer, a digital folder, or a commitment you’ve outgrown, make space for what’s next.

• Reach out: Reconnect with someone who inspires your growth. Send the message. Schedule the coffee. Relationships can be powerful catalysts for transformation.

• State what you want: Not as a resolution, but as an intention. Resolutions focus on the what, the outcome. Intentions focus on the why, your way of being. This shift in perspective can change everything about how you approach the year ahead! 

Start Before You’re Ready

It’s easy to wait for the perfect moment: a new quarter, a new year, a fresh start on the calendar. But real transformation doesn’t follow a schedule. Often, the most meaningful progress begins right in the middle of the mess, before you feel completely ready. This is when you must push forward despite not having all the answers.

If you feel the urge to evolve, to reinvent, or to realign with what matters most, you don’t have to wait for January. The most powerful transformations begin when you choose clarity over convention. Instead of waiting for the crystal ball to drop on New Year’s Eve ask yourself:

What is one shift I can make today to meet the next version of myself with intention?

Ready to Reinvent on Your Own Terms?

Explore my self-paced course: Dare: To Go For Your Goals at BrunnerAcademy.com, a proven system to help you define meaningful goals, stay motivated, and pursue your dreams at the pace that’s right for you.

If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

The Pressure to Be 'Fine': Why Leaders Feel the Loneliest in December

For many leaders, December is like stepping onto a brightly lit stage.

You’re supposed to be thankful, celebratory, motivate your team, and finish strong. Yet behind the scenes, you may feel emotionally drained and deeply, silently tired. That disconnect may even feel heavy. And, if you’ve ever thought, “I should be fine, but I’m not,” know that you are not alone.

Why December Feels Heavy, Even When You’re Grateful

What often goes unspoken is that December isn’t just busy, it’s emotionally charged. From performance reviews and year-end reports to holiday planning, strategic forecasts, and personal reflection, the final weeks of the year often bring a crescendo of responsibilities.

No matter how grateful you may be, expectations run high, and there’s a great deal of invisible work, especially for leaders. You’re holding space for others while managing your own fatigue, goals, and perhaps even some dreams that haven’t yet come to fruition.

The Guilt of Leadership Exhaustion

Many high-achieving leaders carry a sense of guilt in feeling exhausted when gratitude is expected, and in craving solitude when you’re supposed to be present for others. Sometimes, there’s even guilt in questioning whether you want to continue on the same path next year.

Leadership often encourages us to be stoic, but there is a hidden cost to always appearing “fine.” Over time, you may start to overlook your own signals for change. But December has a way of bringing these feelings forward, gently nudging you to recognize what you’ve been holding.

When Leaders Realize It’s Time for a New Chapter

Your reinvention—or re-creation as I like to call it—may happen on January 1st, but it happens more often when you slow down enough to hear your own thoughts again, when you start to listen to that quiet voice inside you that may be saying: 

This pace isn’t sustainable.

There has to be a better way to lead.

I’m proud of what I’ve built, but I’m not fulfilled.

If you’re hearing that voice, it’s not a sign of weakness. It’s an invitation to make an intentional shift that honors who you are now and what you’re ready to embrace next.

How to Decompress Without Disappearing

Yes, you need rest. But decompressing doesn’t mean you have to disappear. Start small—five minutes of true self-reflection can outweigh an hour of pretending. You don’t need a plan; you simply need to give yourself permission to acknowledge how you truly feel. Consider asking yourself:

• What am I tired of carrying into every meeting?

• What am I pretending is “fine” that really isn’t?

• What parts of my work still energize me?

Give yourself space to reflect rather than react. When you decompress with clarity instead of avoidance, your next chapter becomes a conscious, empowered, intentional shift rather than a collapse.

Strength Isn’t Stoicism. It’s Honesty.

Let’s move beyond the façade of “I’m fine.” True strength in leadership comes from being honest with yourself and others when change is needed. It means allowing people to see your humanity, not just your successes, and leading by example when it comes to rest, boundaries, and integrity.

As you close out the year, don’t just check the boxes — check in with yourself. True leadership isn’t just about holding it together, being fine. It’s about noticing when you’re not, and leading yourself with compassion first before leading others. 

Craving more calm and clarity this season?

Explore my self-paced course: Dare: To Find Peace of Mind at BrunnerAcademy.com for a simple, accessible guide to meditation and mindfulness, designed to help you reconnect with yourself and find balance in the midst of this season.

If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

• My book, Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter, the winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, a Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

• My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

• My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Reinvention vs. Re-Creation: The Real Art of Intentional Transformation

We often hear the phrase, “I need to reinvent myself.” It’s become the anthem of anyone facing transition—whether it’s a new career, a new chapter, or simply a deep sense that something needs to shift.

But what if reinvention isn’t actually the goal? What if the real power lies not in reinventing who you are… but in re-creating from who you’ve always been? Who you are meant to be?

That subtle shift changes everything.

Reinvention vs. Re-Creation: What’s the Difference?

Reinvention implies starting over—a blank slate, a total overhaul, a goodbye to what came before. It’s forward-focused, yes, but it can also carry a shadow: the idea that something about who you are right now isn’t enough.

Re-creation, on the other hand, is rooted in wholeness.
It honors your past experiences, your skills, your lessons, and your essence—and builds from them, not against them. As my grandmother Chacko always said: “No knowledge is ever wasted.”

When we re-create, we evolve with intention.
We integrate the wisdom of where we’ve been with the clarity of where we want to go.

That’s the essence of Intentional Transformation—the philosophy that guided my own journey when I left a 28-year television career to start my next chapter as a keynote speaker, executive coach, and author.

I didn’t erase who I was.
I brought her with me.

The Foundation of Re-Creation: Awareness, Alignment, Action

If reinvention is reactionary, re-creation is intentional.
And intentional transformation happens through three key stages:

1. Awareness

Before any meaningful change can happen, we must get honest with ourselves.
Ask: Where am I right now—and why? What feels aligned, and what doesn’t?
Awareness isn’t judgment—it’s information. It gives you the clarity you need to make empowered choices about what to carry forward and what to release.

2. Alignment

Once you’re clear on where you are, the next step is aligning your actions with your values and vision.
True transformation doesn’t come from external change—it comes from inner congruence.
When what you think, feel, and do are in harmony, life begins to unfold with more ease and authenticity.

3. Action

Re-creation doesn’t happen by waiting for the perfect time—it happens when you take one intentional step at a time.
That might mean enrolling in a course, seeking mentorship, or simply giving yourself permission to say “yes” to something that excites you and “no” to what drains you.

Small actions, done consistently, lead to big transformation.

Re-Creating Your Life at Any Age

Here’s the truth: You are never too old, too established, or too far along to re-create your life.
You don’t need to throw everything away to begin again.

The beauty of re-creation is that it allows you to build with everything you’ve already done—your career experience, your personal growth, your hard-earned lessons—and channel it into something new that reflects the person you’ve become.

Maybe that means pivoting your career.
Maybe it means writing a book, launching a business, or leading with more authenticity.
Maybe it simply means giving yourself permission to evolve.

Whatever it looks like, you can begin today.

A Final Reflection

Reinvention is about becoming someone new.
Re-creation is about becoming more of who you truly are.

When you approach change from a place of authenticity and intention, transformation doesn’t feel forced—it feels natural.

So ask yourself:
What part of you is ready to be re-created?
And what small, courageous step could you take today to bring that vision to life?

Because the next chapter of your story isn’t waiting for permission—it’s waiting for you.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

1. My book, "Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter": The winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, and an Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

2. My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

3. My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Preventing Resilience Fatigue: How Great Leaders Protect Their Teams from Burning Out

We’ve all heard the rallying cries: “Be resilient.” “Keep pushing.” “Stay strong.” And while resilience is essential in leadership and life, there’s a hidden truth many high-performing teams are quietly struggling with: resilience fatigue—the exhaustion that comes from constantly having to bounce back without enough time or support to recover.

In today’s workplace, where change is constant and demands are unrelenting, resilience fatigue can quietly erode motivation, performance, and trust. As leaders, it’s our job not to just model resilience—but to create environments where resilience can be restored.

What Resilience Fatigue Looks Like in Teams

Resilience fatigue doesn’t always announce itself. It often hides behind phrases like:

• “I’m fine.”

• “It’s just a busy season.”

• “Once we get through this project, it’ll calm down.”

But beneath those words are signs of deeper wear: disengagement, shorter tempers, declining creativity, and a quiet sense of disconnection. The team is still functioning, but not flourishing.

If you’ve noticed your team’s energy waning—even if performance metrics still look strong—this is your cue to pause and lead with empathy.

Leadership Isn’t Just About Driving Results—It’s About Protecting Capacity

Leaders who prevent resilience fatigue don’t wait for burnout to appear—they build resilience into the culture itself because sustainable success doesn’t come from squeezing more out of your people; it comes from supporting them in replenishing what they give.

Here’s how:

1. Normalize Humanity, Not Hustle

It starts with permission. When leaders openly acknowledge their own challenges—without framing them as weakness—they give others permission to be human, too. A simple, “This has been a demanding quarter for all of us. How are you holding up?” can shift the tone of an entire team. Empathy creates safety. Safety fuels engagement. Both help to create balance.

2. Redefine “Strong”

Being strong isn’t about powering through every storm. It’s about knowing when to pause and recharge before the next one, and incorporate play. Encourage your team to take breaks, use their PTO, or block focus time without guilt. This is really challenging for many leaders, but it is imperative! When people feel trusted to manage their energy, as well as their time, they perform better and stay longer.

3. Balance Accountability with Grace

High standards are important—but so is compassion. Check in on progress, yes, but also on process. Ask:

“What’s working well for you right now?”
“Where are you feeling stretched thin?”

This opens the door for honest dialogue. And when people feel seen and supported, they’re more likely to self-correct before burnout sets in.

4. Foster Connection and Purpose

Fatigue often comes from feeling disconnected—from meaning, from the mission, or from each other. Reinforce why the work matters. Celebrate small wins. Encourage peer-to-peer recognition. Even five minutes in a team meeting to acknowledge effort can rebuild morale and remind people that their contributions make a difference.

5. Model Boundaries—and Keep Them

Your team will mirror the habits you model. If you’re sending emails at midnight, skipping meals, or never taking a day off, they’ll assume that’s what’s expected. Instead, demonstrate that boundaries are not barriers—they’re fuel for better thinking and stronger leadership. When you protect your own energy, you give others permission to protect theirs.

Resilience Is a Shared Responsibility

The most effective leaders I’ve coached understand this: resilience isn’t just a personal trait—it’s an organizational practice. It’s built into the daily habits, the conversations, the trust, and the culture you create.

So as you lead your teams through the final stretch of the year, remember—your job isn’t to demand constant strength. It’s to design a space where your people can refuel, re-engage, and rise stronger together.

Because true leadership isn’t about how well you endure the storm—it’s about how well you help others weather it, too.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

1. My book, "Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter": The winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, and an Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

2. My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

3. My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

The 3 Voices That Quiet Your Confidence (And How to Reclaim It)

Confidence doesn’t disappear overnight. It slips away quietly, little by little—sometimes without you even realizing it’s happening—through the stories we tell ourselves and the inner voices we allow to take center stage. I’ve seen this not only in my own life, but in the journeys of so many high-achieving professionals I’ve had the privilege to coach. Outwardly, they appear confident and accomplished. But behind closed doors, self-doubt often lingers. Why? Because real confidence isn’t just about how you show up for others. It’s about the dialogue you have with yourself when no one else is around.

In my book Dare to Own You, I share my pivotal moment: stepping away from a 28-year career in television. I had built a name, a reputation, a platform. But as I considered launching my own business, an inner voice told me I wasn’t smart enough, nor business-minded. That voice wasn’t the truth. It was fear, perfectionism, and an old story that no longer matched who I was becoming. Over time, I learned those voices are limiting beliefs, stories we tell ourselves that we come to believe as fact when there is absolutely zero truth to them. They are  just stories, and stories can be rewritten. That’s what I want to offer you: how to spot the three inner voices that can quiet your confidence, and how to reclaim it so you can move forward with clarity, purpose, and presence.

Voice 1: The Perfectionist

This voice holds a lot of power. It tells you that unless everything is flawless, you can’t move forward or embrace new opportunities. It urges you to wait for the perfect timing, the perfect resume, the perfect pitch. But perfection isn’t required for progress. When I stepped into entrepreneurship, I didn’t have all the answers. What I did have was the courage to trust myself and take the next step. I made mistakes and learned from them. Moving forward, even when things weren’t perfect, is what allowed me to build a business and a brand that reflects who I truly am. Confidence grows when you give yourself permission to act, even if it’s imperfect. Waiting for perfection only keeps your potential on pause.

Voice 2: The Comparer

This voice thrives in places like social media and professional circles where we’re surrounded by highlight reels and polished success stories. It whispers, “They’re already doing it better than you.” It tries to convince you that you’re behind, that you’ll never catch up, that your unique journey doesn’t measure up. But comparison clouds your clarity. When you focus on someone else’s path, you lose sight of your own. It’s crucial to focus on yourself and connect the dots of your own story. Every chapter, every win, every setback lays the foundation for what comes next. Your experiences, your values, and your voice are what set you apart. When you shift your focus from seeking approval to aligning with your own purpose, confidence follows.

Voice 3: The Inner Critic

This voice carries the weight of old failures, missed opportunities, and beliefs that may not even belong to you. It says, “You’ve failed before, so why would this time be different?” It urges you to play it safe, to shrink back, to stay with what’s familiar. Often, it shows up as impostor syndrome: the nagging feeling that you’re not deserving of the success you’ve achieved, that you’re just pretending and someone will eventually notice. This inner script can get especially loud during times of transition or growth, even when you’ve earned your seat at the table.

Growth requires letting go of old versions of yourself. One of the most powerful steps in transformation is realizing you are not defined by your past. The stories that once held you back can become the fuel for your next chapter. Confidence is built when you acknowledge your past, honor what it taught you, and choose to lead from who you are becoming, not who you used to be.

When You Control Your Voice, You Change Your Story

Reclaiming your confidence doesn’t happen in a single moment. It’s a process of noticing which voice is speaking, pausing to question it, and choosing to replace it with one rooted in courage, clarity, and truth. You don’t have to wait until you feel fully ready. You just need to take the next intentional step, one  that will also move you towards unlocking your ‘IT Factor.’ When you do, you build momentum not by forcing it, but by moving in alignment with your true self.

If you find yourself holding back or doubting your voice, pause and reflect: Which of these inner voices is speaking the loudest? What could shift if you started listening to your own wisdom instead? You are not behind. You are not too late. You are never alone. The next chapter of your story is already unfolding. Step forward with confidence.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

1. My book, "Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter": The winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, and an Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

2. My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

3. My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Before You Make Another Big Decision, Listen to This Voice First

Have you ever felt a quiet inner nudge—the sense that you’re meant for something more, even when everything on the outside looks successful? Maybe it shows up as restlessness, or a dream you keep postponing for “someday.” Perhaps you feel stuck in a routine that no longer fulfills you, held back by fear of change or failure.

That’s exactly where I found myself twelve years ago.

After nearly three decades in a high-profile television career, I had what most people would call “success.” Yet deep down, I knew something needed to change. There was no roadmap—just a quiet voice that whispered:

“You’re meant for something more.”

That voice wasn’t loud, but it was persistent. Learning to trust it—above the fears, doubts, and well-intentioned advice of others—became the foundation for my personal and professional transformation.

Inner Voice vs. Inner Critic: The Leadership Lesson No One Talks About

Every leader has two voices.
One is the inner critic—the loud, relentless voice that questions your worth, replays your mistakes, and disguises fear as logic. It thrives in uncertainty and feeds on comparison, often convincing you to play it safe. If we let it, it keeps us stuck in roles we’ve outgrown and holds us back from taking risks or embracing our authenticity.

Then there’s the inner voice—your intuitive guide. It doesn’t shout. It whispers truth. It reminds you of who you are beneath the titles, the performance, and the pressure.

Your inner voice is your greatest leadership tool. When you learn to distinguish it from your critic, you stop performing and start leading. You move from perfection to presence—and from confusion to clarity.

Action Step: The next time you face a decision, pause and ask:

“Is this voice coming from fear, or from truth?”

That one question can change everything.

Why Emotional Intelligence Starts with Listening to Yourself

As an executive coach, I define The IT Factor™ as the alignment of your physical, mental, and relational self.
It’s about showing up with clarity, confidence, and purpose—what I call embodied leadership.

But that alignment can’t happen if your decisions are driven by fear or ego. When you let fear lead, you’re reacting—not leading. You may appear successful on the outside, but inside, something feels disconnected. That disconnect is a signal: you’re out of alignment with your truth.

Coaching Tip: Ask yourself, “Which voice am I listening to—the one that doubts me or the one that knows me?” True leadership presence begins with inner alignment. When you learn to listen inwardly, every outward decision becomes more intentional.

How to Rebuild Trust with Your Inner Voice

You don’t need a career overhaul to reconnect with your intuition. You just need a willingness to slow down and listen, without losing your edge.
Your inner wisdom hasn’t disappeared—it’s simply been drowned out by busyness, expectations, and self-doubt.

Here are four reflective questions to help you reconnect:

1. What am I avoiding that I already know I need to face?
   

2. What energizes me—and what drains me?
   

3. Where am I betraying myself by saying “yes” when I want to say “no”?
   

4. Where do I already know the answer but haven’t given myself permission to act?
   

Action Step: Journal on one question each day for a week. Notice what themes emerge. Your clarity will begin to reveal itself in patterns.

Your Voice Is the Foundation of Executive Presence

Many leaders come to me wanting to strengthen their executive presence—to communicate with confidence and lead with influence. But here’s the truth: presence starts before you ever speak.

Yes, your delivery, tone, and body language matter. But your mindset is what drives how others perceive you. The most magnetic leaders are those who are grounded in authenticity. They’ve done the inner work to align their thoughts, emotions, and actions.

Leadership Insight: True confidence isn’t about volume—it’s about congruence. When your inner and outer selves align, you naturally command respect and trust.

A Final Invitation: Trust the Voice That Knows You Best

If you’re in a season of transition or self-doubt, take this as your reminder: You already have the wisdom you need. Your inner voice may be quiet, but it’s steady, honest, and true.

When you choose to listen to it, everything begins to shift. You don’t have to know every next step—you just need the courage to take one aligned action.

Because the next chapter of your life isn’t waiting for certainty. It’s waiting for you to say yes.

💬 Ready to Strengthen Your Inner Voice and Leadership Presence?

Join me at BrunnerAcademy.com to explore my courses and coaching designed to help leaders like you develop emotional intelligence, confidence, and authentic communication skills that inspire transformation—from the inside out.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

1. My book, "Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter": The winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, and an Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

2. My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

3. My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Where It All Began: My Own Intentional Transformation

I am living proof that transformation is possible for anyone. Twelve years ago, I left behind a career I had spent 28 years building. I didn’t know if I was ready to go out on my own and start a business,but deep down, I knew I was being called to something more. A close mentor once asked me, “Why would you give that value to somebody else?” In that moment, everything shifted. I made the scariest and best decision of my career.

Stepping away from the spotlight was not easy. I didn’t have a clear roadmap. But one question kept coming back to me: What if I’m meant to use my voice in a new way? That question inspired me to launch Brunner Communications, and later, Brunner Academy. It motivated me to write Dare to Own You and brought me to where I am today. It opened the door to a new chapter, one where I could build something meaningful on my own terms. It wasn’t just a pivot in my career, it was a personal transformation. I stopped waiting for the perfect time and said yes to the next chapter. That leap taught me what I now teach others: transformation doesn’t begin with certainty. It begins with choice.

At some point, we all reach a crossroads. That moment when we stand between where we are and where we want to be. It could be sparked by a major life event, or it might show up as a quiet inner nudge. But no matter how it appears, the invitation is always the same: will you step forward with intention? That choice is what I now call the beginning of your I.T. Factor™: Intentional Transformation. Not a change based on chance or pressure, but one rooted in clarity, courage, and alignment.

What Is the IT Factor?

The IT Factor is more than just when someone is able to pull off charisma or confidence. It’s about aligning your physical, mental, and relational self. This requires a powerful blend of executive presence, authenticity, and clarity. When you intentionally cultivate it, you lead with purpose, communicate with influence, and show up as your best self. You become magnetic not by performing, but by being grounded in who you are. You don’t need to be the loudest voice or have the most impressive credentials. Presence starts with showing up as your authentic self, with clarity, conviction, and courage.

We’ve all seen someone walk into a room and instantly command attention. But this isn’t because it’s something they’re born with, but rather because of their presence. That’s the IT Factor in action. When you let go of what no longer serves you, you can own your story and lead from a place of alignment. Commit to who you are and who you are becoming.

Transformation Doesn’t Just Happen, It’s a Choice.

What began as a leap of faith became my mission. Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of coaching hundreds of high-achieving professionals through their own defining transitions. I’m here to share that transformation is possible for you, too. You don’t need a crisis, burnout, or a major life change to reinvent yourself. All it takes is the choice to say yes. In my leadership coaching work, I often ask my clients: What identity are you still holding onto that no longer fits? For others, it’s a version of themselves that feels safe and comfortable. But the longer we resist change, the more we limit our own potential.

True transformation begins when we release what no longer serves us, when we stop measuring our worth by how we perform for others and start making choices rooted in authenticity, purpose, and presence. This is the work I am passionate about: helping people find the clarity and courage to lead with their full, aligned selves. More than a decade after founding Brunner Communications, I know this for sure: you don’t need permission to evolve. You just need to listen to that quiet voice inside and have the courage to follow it.

What Happens When You Say Yes to the Shift?

When you say yes, you stop waiting for permission or the perfect moment. You stop shrinking to fit roles that no longer serve you. You start living, leading, and communicating with clarity and confidence. I have experienced this shift myself. On the other side of that choice, I found something more valuable than certainty: alignment. Transformation doesn’t require you to know every step ahead. It simply asks you to trust yourself enough to take the next one.

That doesn’t mean you’ll never doubt yourself or always know what’s next. Life is unpredictable, and we can’t control everything. But you can take ownership of your mindset, presence, and voice in every new chapter. Saying yes to the shift won’t erase doubt or discomfort, but it will help you see yourself as someone who can create momentum and move forward.

The Invitation

If you’re considering your own transformation, know this: you don’t have to have it all figured out, and you don’t need to make a huge leap right away. What matters is that you start listening to that quiet voice inside, the one nudging you toward growth, alignment, and something more. The moment you choose to say yes, everything starts to shift. It might be slow to start, but whether you’re navigating a career transition, stepping into a new leadership role, or simply wanting to live more authentically, I invite you to pause and reflect: What would it look like to say yes to the next chapter with intention?

Transformation doesn’t start with a perfect plan. It starts with a single decision: to lead and live with presence, clarity, and courage. That decision is when you begin to embody your IT Factor.

Over a decade ago, I made that brave decision and founded Brunner Communications. Though it was a leap into the unknown, it was one of the most rewarding choices I’ve ever made. I didn’t have all the answers then, and I still don’t. But I was willing to trust myself, take the first step, and keep showing up.

Now it’s your turn. The next chapter is waiting, so lead it with intention.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

1. My book, "Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter": The winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, and an Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

2. My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

3. My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.

Mental Blockers That Hold High-Achievers Back: The Silent Struggles Leaders Face

What mental and emotional blockers in leadership are holding you back from stepping into your fullest potential as a leader?

This is a question I ask my clients, my audiences, and even myself. No matter how much you accomplish, personal and career growth always uncovers new internal challenges to navigate.

High achievers are often so focused on results, responsibilities, and reputation that it’s easy to overlook the internal patterns that quietly hold us back. In my work with executives, entrepreneurs, and emerging leaders, I consistently see these same mental and emotional blockers in leadership resurface.

Let’s shine a light on these silent struggles, because naming them is the first step toward releasing them.

1. Lack of Executive Presence

Executive presence is one of those intangible qualities everyone talks about, yet few can truly define. And yet, it makes a measurable difference. Studies show that 26 percent of what it takes to get promoted is directly linked to your executive presence and influence.

That presence is what I call the IT Factor™: a magnetic blend of self-confidence, clarity, and authenticity that draws people in and builds trust. It’s not about being the loudest voice in the room. It’s about how you carry yourself, how you communicate, and how you influence others through presence, not pressure. The best part is, executive presence and influence are not something you either have or don’t. It’s something you can cultivate. And it starts with self-awareness and intentionality.

2. Confidence Dips

Confidence isn’t a one-time achievement. It’s a daily practice, built over time.

Even the most accomplished professionals experience moments when self-doubt creeps in. Maybe you’ve stepped into a new role, been asked to speak in front of a room full of stakeholders, or faced a bold new challenge. Confidence can dip, especially under pressure. But you’re never stuck there.

Like any skill, self-confidence can be built and strengthened over time. With the right tools, mindset shifts, and support, you can grow your self-confidence, one day at a time.

If this resonates, I invite you to explore my blog on How to Master Presence and Confidence in High-Stakes Moments, where I share more strategies to build your self-confidence from the inside out.

3. Limiting Beliefs & Imposter Syndrome

Believe it or not, we all have similar doubts racing through our minds, even high-profile, seasoned executives. It’s normal to experience imposter syndrome and feel as though we are limiting ourselves, no matter where we are in our career or self-development journey.

“I’m not ready yet.”

“I don’t belong in this room.”

“I feel like a fraud.”

These thoughts often lie beneath the surface, quietly influencing how we present ourselves, what we pursue, and how we lead. Whether it’s imposter syndrome or deep-rooted limiting beliefs, they share a common thread: they convince us to shrink instead of stretch. These internal narratives are rarely based on truth. They’re stories are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, or past failures. But here’s the empowering truth: stories can be rewritten.

It starts with awareness, recognizing the difference between fact and fear. Then comes the choice to act not out of insecurity, but out of courage. That doesn’t mean the doubts go away completely. But it means you no longer let them dictate your potential. You get to decide whether you lead from the voice of fear or the voice of truth. You’ve earned your place. The challenge now is to believe it and lead from it.

4. Clinging to What Used to Work

One of the hardest truths I have learned, and helped others embrace, is that what got you to where you are in your career today may not get you to where you want to be tomorrow.

It’s easy to stay comfortable with old habits and strategies that once worked. Growth, however, requires us to evolve and expand. That’s why personal and professional transformation calls for a willingness to stretch, to experiment, and to get uncomfortable. It asks us to unlearn and take risks. That’s where personal and professional transformation begins.

Staying comfortable with the familiar may seem safe, but it can quietly keep you stuck. If you feel this way, ask yourself: What am I resisting that could actually help me grow? Am I holding on to something that no longer serves where I want to be?

5. Lack of Preparation

This one might sound simple, but it’s one of the most overlooked blockers I see in high-achieving professionals.

Too often, leaders walk into high-stakes conversations, boardrooms, or important presentations thinking, “I know this stuff, I’ll just wing it.” But that’s not all there is to it.

Presence is a skill. Communication is a skill. Influence is a skill.

And just like any other high-performance skill—like playing an instrument or running a marathon—mastery comes from practice, not chance. Preparation isn’t just about memorizing bullet points or rehearsing slides. It’s about aligning your message with your mission. It’s about clarifying your intention before you ever speak a word and managing your energy, not just your information.

When you prepare intentionally, you show up with clarity, self-confidence, and control. You speak with conviction because you know what matters most and how to communicate it. That’s what builds presence and trust. And that’s what elevates your executive leadership where it’s needed most.

Final Thought: You’re Not Alone, and You’re Not Broken

These mental and emotional blockers in leadership are common, and they don’t mean that you’re unqualified. They don’t mean you’re behind. And they certainly don’t mean you’re broken. They simply mean you’re human.

Every leader I’ve coached has encountered these struggles at some point. The difference between those who stay stuck and those who grow lies in intention, awareness, and support. When you begin to recognize your own blockers with compassion rather than judgment, you reclaim your power to shift them. And from that place, you can step into your next chapter of your leadership journey with more presence, more purpose, and more authenticity than ever before.

You don’t have to do it alone. But you do have to decide that you’re worth the investment. And trust me, you are.

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If you enjoyed this blog post, here are some other resources you might enjoy:

1. My book, "Dare To Own You: Taking Your Authenticity and Dreams Into Your Next Chapter": The winner of two Feathered Quill Book awards, and an Book Excellence award, and recommended by Forbes in 2022 as “a teaching memoir”. 

2. My podcast, the "Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner" podcast: An award-winning and internationally streamed show that highlights powerful stories of re-creation and reinvention from guests who have taken their life experiences, and used that knowledge to create their “next chapters” and live their best lives.

3. My work as a keynote speaker, executive coach and communication expert. You can read more about more of my services here.

Interested in Taking Yourself or Your Executive Team to the Next Level?

Brunner Communications assists high-profile individuals and organizations in sharpening and developing top level business communication, executive presence, and public speaking skills. Our passionate team provides one-on-one executive business coaching, and runs specialized business workshops. Through customized training, clients learn the necessary skills to become great communicators and build a marketable reputation.